Shelby Stidham

Let’s not forget WHOSE wedding it is, ok?

From the very beginning I wanted a small wedding with just family… we wanted a destination out of town but not too far (which ended up being Las Vegas) so that we could skip having a reception and wasting a bunch of money on a one-time party. I wanted it to be small and easy that way the cost was low and the stress was low, too. After seeing my fiance’s sister get married in June of 2007, I decided I would skip all the arguing and fighting and high prices and go to Vegas. I was very careful planning Vegas–even without a reception, it’s easy for things to get pricey there. I kept the whole wedding and after-wedding dinner under $6000. That included invitations, hotel stays for my fiance and I, photography, the ceremony, etc. Well, the parents decided everything would be split down the middle. That was a very nice and generous offer for my fiance’s parents to make and it was greatly appreciated by myself and my family. With that said….

Certain people (names we will not mention, even though no one knows about this blog) are forgetting how bossy and pushy they were at their own wedding! They are calling me and telling me that the wedding is getting expensive and that the wedding is for “everyone” and not just Matt and I. OH REALLY? It is for everyone? I seem to remember a certain someone telling us that we would “ruin” (exact word used) their wedding if Matt and I tried to sit together at dinner. Interesting how quickly people forget how they treated other people and then they want to boss the shit out of you, telling you all the stuff that you could NEVER have said to them during their wedding. Especially that things are getting costly… well guess what? I didn’t ask any of you to fly to Las Vegas and stay in a nice hotel. YOU did that on your own. Everyone in my family is driving and they don’t have a problem with it.. Flying is not your only option so please don’t tell me how “expensive” things are getting. And this is THE ONLY TIME when Matt and I can have a few days where EVERYTHING is about us.. I certainly remember SOMEONE’s wedding being ONLY about them… but now that it is our turn, we should just let people choose what they want just to avoid fighting? I am so sick of people being hypocritical. This has all made my stomach TURN and this is the kind of stuff I wanted to avoid. And of course I have to write it here and never speak a word of it for fear of people getting their feelings hurt. Oh but my feelings? Apparently they don’t matter. Everyone say how they really feel except for me because I am not officially part of the family.

AND.. if you (a different person now) are saying “I didn’t even have to do this I just wanted to!” then DONT DO IT. I never asked for it! And now I am being made out to be the bad guy for saying NO I DON’T WANT THIS when asked if I want it? What the heck?

Frustrations.